Yep. That singular message once flooded my thoughts. Even when I attempted to put my best foot forward and invest my own savings into a business venture for over a decade, I kept hearing those words. Along with three other partners, I did everything I could and spent sleepless nights and weekends trying to make "it" happen, but it never really took off.
This story is definitely not new. They often say that failure is the precursor to success, but is it really? Is the trying what it is all about? Is success only for the lucky?
As a coach, my attempt is always to assist in helping my clients find the potential within. One of the most useful tools in this process is the concept of "visioning." I simply ask, if this huge obstacle was removed what would life look like in five years? That is when the magic happens. My clients are immediately aroused, grinning at times, and speak of elaborate plans and detailed actions. They are living what those in Hinduism speak of as dharma. Dharma literally means the "right way," but it’s also living your most fulfilled state of existence, to some degree your purpose.
There are countless stories of individuals like Arianna Huffington who was once rejected by 36 publishers, Walt Disney who went through not one but two bankruptcies to get his various productions off the ground, and most famous of all, Abraham Lincoln who had a series of hardships and even pronounced:
"I am now the most miserable man living. If what I feel were equally distributed to the whole human family, there would not be one cheerful face on the earth."
As I check in with my “three brains,” I am feeling surprisingly empowered.
🧠 My rational side knows the difference between risk and reward. It is saying to evaluate the situation like a balance sheet. Is the risk worth it? Is my time and energy valuable? Will it give me what I truly want?
💓 The heart is the seat of compassion and tells me that decisions are not made in a vacuum. That failure is the ability to nurture a second chance which often takes time. Even a blade needs sharpening.
🤰 The thumping of my gut leaves me hopeful and reminds to always look beyond my current state. As the Queen of Jazz Ella Fitzgerald so eloquently sings,
♬ Into each life some rain must fall
But some day the sun will shine ♬
Every Monday morning at 10 AM EST I will post a powerful prompt which can also be synced to your smartphone calendar here and follow it wherever it leads. The aim is to resource all "three brains" — head 🧠, heart 💓, and gut 🤰 — in hopes of connecting the dots to those sticky parts in our nature that matter.