Who has been there for me through thick and thin?

These two text messages appeared on my iPhone last Tuesday, 4/13/21 exactly forty-five minutes apart. It was from a close friend, R.F., who I have known for over a decade. Her sister passed away at her home due to COVID-19 complications. All I could muster in response was, "Noooo!" R.F.'s relationship with her sister was far more motherly than anything else. She would often comment that her older sister was the rock in the family who everyone grabbed onto when the storms seemed too heavy to bear.

This experience made me think deeply about this week's prompt. My initial impetus was to write about a mentor who has helped me in every way imaginable but that would be too easy. So what does the term "thick and thin" actually mean? Dictionary.com defines it as:

"under all circumstances, no matter how difficult."

🧠 The first person that springs to mind is my mother. Growing up we didn't have the most harmonious relationship. There was a lot of push and pull. I often found myself escaping while at times basking in her nurturing spirit which fed me in surprising ways.

💓 Breathing into the heart, I remember the day I was discharged from the hospital after spending two weeks bedridden and being administered my first round of chemotherapy drugs. I had lost a total of 18 lbs. and looked utterly emaciated. My mom picked me up, drove me home and vowed to do everything she could to bring me back to radiant health.

🤰 My gut has a few choice words on the matter. Be comfortable in the uncomfortable. I guess that's really what it is all about. For our greatest relationships are not always the ones that gift us with a bed of roses, they make us question our own humanity and how we respond to its call.

“If we knew it would be the last time we would hear your voice lifted up in praise,

We would have videotaped each action so we could play it for days.

But just in case we might be wrong and today is all we get,

We'd like to say how much we love you, and hope you never forget.

Take time to say ‘I'm sorry,’ ‘Please forgive me,’ ‘Thank you,’ or ‘It's okay,’

Because if tomorrow never comes there is after all still today.”

📜 R.F. / If We Knew

So what is nudging at you? What stirs up in your "three brains?" Who has been there for you through thick and thin?


Every Monday morning at 10 AM EST I will post a powerful prompt which can also be synced to your smartphone calendar here and follow it wherever it leads. The aim is to resource all “three brains” — head 🧠, heart 💓, and gut 🤰 — in hopes of connecting the dots to those sticky parts in our nature that matter.