How does negative self-talk show up in my life?
This week was tough. Mentally, I was a ball of stress. Spiritually, I felt confused. And emotionally, I was drained to the point of not wanting to do anything on Tuesday. I canceled all my appointments and spent the rest of the day in bed. Normally I would try to fight the feelings and convince myself that I should act. Guilt entered my mind, and I recalled all the missed opportunities. Childhood memories flooded my thoughts of when I was a "bad boy."
Watching TV was overly stimulating, and the apps felt too overwhelming. I was craving some semblance of serenity and escape. Curiously, the one notification that somehow caught my attention was a LinkedIn post that said:
It was a much-needed slap in the face and really put the situation into perspective. All this time I was worrying and stressing about things that were simply out of my control.
We all need rest, and maybe my head 🧠, heart 💓, and gut 🤰 were telling me to do just that. But it was also a reminder that we always have a choice. And my choice that day was to feed into the negative. I believe negative feelings are like guideposts, so I have learned to welcome them in. But I don’t allow them to stay; I don’t allow them to get overly comfortable.
There is an erroneous belief that motivation always precedes action. But that is simply not true. Sometimes the action creates the motivation. So later that day, I gave my deflated self a hard look in the mirror, took a warm 15 minute shower, and just journaled what I was feeling.
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Every Monday morning at 10 AM EST I will post a powerful prompt which can also be synced to your smartphone calendar here and follow it wherever it leads. The aim is to resource all "three brains" — head 🧠, heart 💓, and gut 🤰 — in hopes of connecting the dots to those sticky parts in our nature that matter.